If you are a woman in midlife who has been through divorce, an emotionally unhealthy relationship or the ending of a painful relationship, the thought of dating again can bring up so much.

You may want to love again

You may miss companionship, closeness, touch, laughter and the feeling of being special to another.

But at the same time, you may also feel cautious, guarded, uncertain or even frightened of getting it wrong.

You might wonder:

• How do I know if I’m really ready?

• How do I trust myself again?

• What if I attract the same kind of person as the ex?

• What if I miss red flags again?

• What if I’m too old, too hurt or too broken to begin again?

This is why I do the work I do.

Because dating after divorce is not simply about getting back out there.

It is about coming back to yourself first.

It is about rebuilding the part of you that learned to doubt herself, silence herself, over-give, over-function, shrink, tolerate too much or lose touch with what felt safe and true.

It is about learning to date from self-trust rather than fear.

It is about becoming emotionally safe inside yourself, so that you can make clear, grounded, loving choices in the future.

And that is the heart of my work.